Writing about love, sex, and romance

[celebkiriedhel]

OK

I'll start 2 threads - one in Sims2, and one in Sims3 Discussion forums

Here be our Simselves - TS2

Here be our Simselves- TS3



OK Lunar - Your Move! ;D

[pinkfiend1]

For some reason I thought I'd posted here already. Nevermind.
I write about love and romance or what I think love and romance, and attraction are all about having never actually experienced any of it. So it's accuracy is completly up for debate. But then it's kind of hard to avoid writing about it espeically in legacies, as it's kind of the whole point.

As for sex I kind of dream about writing it, but then I tend to dream in words anyway, but it doesn't go in to detail. I kind of have to force myself to think of the detail well base don't the biology side of it all or what's been in tv/movies/books you know. Unless I force myself it's stops pretty early.

I suppose an example might be useful. but now I need one I can't think of it. Let me think and I'll actually write it sort of. It stops with the he unzips the back of her dress kind of thing. It'll be clearer if I can think to write it properly. I'll maybe post it later.

[pinkfiend1]

6 hours later...

It felt so wrong putting it onto paper. And it is by no means as real sounding (if that's right?) as any of the others, and is I imagine what you call more flowery. But despite what you might think this is surprisingly deep into my head, it's somewhere right in the heart of my subconcious almost, but I decided I was going to post it so I have to.

*forces herself to hit post*

It's a little bit long so I put it in spoilers.

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“Can we take the stairs?” she half whispered nervously.
“Sure, anything you want.” Half wanting to delay the thing he dreamed about, half wishing he wouldn’t need to walk all the way up to the penthouse suite of the hotel. Their hands entwined in silence as they meandered up.

“I thought you didn’t like wardrobe doors being open” he joked when they reached the room.
“ I had to hang the veil up earlier so it didn’t get ruined at the reception. I didn’t close the doors because I figured there’d be more to hang up later.” He raised his eyebrows. “What? This is too expensive to let it get all creased. I don’t want to take it off just yet though.” She finished, the nervousness creeping back into her voice.
“We have the rest of our lives for that”
“ It doesn’t feel like that somehow”
“I won’t do anything you don’t want me to.” He said as he moved in closer to her, his hands resting just below her shoulder, their foreheads and noses touching.
She moved first, tilting her head, letting their lips meet as her hand moved up his arms, resting on his face as they kissed. Gradually she let her hands drop resting on the collar of his jacket, breaking the kiss as she moved round him slipping the jacket off, and placing it on the back of a chair as he watched.
“How do you undo a tie?”
“Let me show you” he whispered as he moved his hands over hers and guided her.
“You’ll need to show me how to tie one of these someday”
“Not now”
“Not now” she echoed her lips on his again, briefly before their foreheads joined, eyes gazing downwards as she cautiously undid the shirt buttons, slipping it off his shoulders and letting it fall to the floor. Lips met as she trailed a finger down the curve of his back, smiling into his mouth as she felt the bumps of his spine, instinctively stopping before she reached his trouser, and tracing back up and down over and over as the kiss continued. She broke the kiss again, turning around in his arms.
“Yes” she answered his silent question, and he smoothed the blonde curls over her shoulder, letting his lips brush her neck briefly, whispering ever so quietly those three important words before he concentrated on the long line of buttons, still she clutched the dress to her chest despite the thin spaghetti straps resting on her shoulders, but she could already see it on a coat hanger.

[thelunarfox]

Wow, Pink! I think that's really good. Sometimes it's best to not get into the gory details about the actual act. I think your example is perfect for that. I love when she asks, "How do you untie a tie?" And then she says he'll have to show her one of these days. It's sweet, but not unrealistic. She comes across slightly hesitant, probably nervous.

[pinkfiend1]

Thankyou Lunar.

[raquelaroden]

Pink, I think it was a very sweet scene--I really don't get the "too-flowery" vibe from it, either. I think it was well done. I get the same feeling Lunar does--she's a little hesitant and nervous, but she's also definitely in love. I like the details of how their heads are touching and the care you take in describing how they are disrobing--they show us how they're feeling, rather than just tell us.

[dinuriel]

I agree, it's a great scene. Nothing too metaphorical or showy, and just the right amount of detail. Nice work

[laura]

Pink! Oh, that was beautiful!!! That was not the least bit flowery, each detail was carefully chosen and perfect for these two!

What I love most about it is that it's not idealized at all. Their exchange is so genuine. Oh, the tie bit just melts my heart! And imagining her dress on the hanger at the end, a lovely way to show where this is going.

Well done!

[sfe]

Pink it's so good! I agree with what everybody already said. It is sweet, and the descriptions of how they touch etc are beautiful. I like the ending too. There is no need to get into detail about what will follow - you have set the atmosphere, you've clearly portraited their feelings and intentions... and nothing about it sounds the least bit unrealistic.

[pinkfiend1]

awww. You're all just too nice.

[blackdaisies]

I was reading this thread through this weekend, and it's interesting to see how everyone is handling sex and romance in their stories, especially with Sims.

As a reader, I do appreciate the romance genre. I read quite a bit of it a while ago, I used to be a fan of historical romances. I really don't have any problems at all with sex in stories... and on the other side, I also don't have problems with lack of sex in stories, but definitely not because of religious or moral issues or anything like that. Sometimes, a good romance just doesn't need sex, and that's fine.

I don't mind details if there is an emotional connection to it (even if that emotion is negative). If it's part of the development of the plot and characters, I don't mind it a little more explicit details, but it really has to fit the story. I've mentioned this before, but if something is added just for the sake of shock value, it's obvious and to me it's unappealing.

I will be honest though, I do tend to skim over detailed sex scenes in general. It's not because I'm a prude or have moral issues about it. To me, it feels like I'm intruding on something personal, especially with characters I really enjoy reading about. Kind of like voyeuring on friends, lol.

This is generally my thought process when writing about intimacy. I might be a little more boring in that respect, lol. I tend to keep things simple, and with my current story I use pictures to tell the story. So things like action, and sex, I prefer to let the pictures do all the work and hopefully the intimacy comes across.

Past the spoiler is my ""story telling" at work, lol.

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