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Post by rad on Dec 6, 2010 19:16:49 GMT -5
I comment on every blog I read at some point, but I don't think there's any blog where I comment on every single chapter - it's partly a time thing - if I read a chapter when it's a lazy day and I have time on my hands I'm more likely to comment - but it's also partly because sometimes, as others have said, I don't have anything to say other than 'nice job'. I also tend to get behind and need to read several chapters at once, so I'm likely just to comment on the most recent of those.
Very occasionally (and not on anyone here's blogs) I read chapters that really don't work or things happen in a story that just seem to jar, and then I don't comment because the writer didn't invite criticism and I don't feel it's appropriate to give it, but at the same time I don't feel I can offer much praise in those circumstances. It's tricky.
Sometimes I feel really inspired, challenged, delighted, amused, moved etc by something in a chapter and those are the things that will really make me want to comment on it in more detail. That, and favourite characters turning up for cameos etc. (I think this last point is something DB seems to like as well!)
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Post by dbloveshermac on Dec 6, 2010 22:37:58 GMT -5
Sometimes I feel really inspired, challenged, delighted, amused, moved etc by something in a chapter and those are the things that will really make me want to comment on it in more detail. That, and favourite characters turning up for cameos etc. (I think this last point is something DB seems to like as well!) Yes, I'm easily drawn into comment orbit around favorite characters. :-) I find myself being a fan some of some and really rooting against others (usually villains – don't get the wrong idea that I'm hoping your main character is going to get slandered, sacked, or stabbed!), and apparently I just can't keep my mouth shut (fingers mittened?) when a chapter features a character who's on my passion list. |
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Post by laura on Dec 7, 2010 7:48:02 GMT -5
Very occasionally (and not on anyone here's blogs) I read chapters that really don't work or things happen in a story that just seem to jar, and then I don't comment because the writer didn't invite criticism and I don't feel it's appropriate to give it, but at the same time I don't feel I can offer much praise in those circumstances. It's tricky. Oh, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has this issue. As someone who comments on almost every chapter it's obvious when I skip one and I feel bad about it, but on blogs I definitely follow the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" rule. I'll often read and re-read to find something positive, but sometimes there just aren't any words. Ah ha! *goes back to see which chapters y'all didn't comment on* LOL! ;D Really though, it is a gentle and passive way of expressing that something just didn't work. I'm sure I've done this too without even realizing what I was doing. |
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Post by hrootbeer on Feb 1, 2011 19:53:22 GMT -5
Someone commented on my old blog yesterday in the most horrible and offensive way. I'm sharing it here simply because I'm sure it was a spam type comment, but they took a lot of time with it. I tried not to take it personally, and I marked it as SPAM immediately, but still I felt really awful about it. I was wondering if anyone else has had someone make such a comment on their sites? Did you take it seriously? Get offended? Just blow it off and delete it? Here it is: pathetic injustice fakefake1234@yahoo.com 76.118.250.43 Flagged as spam by hrootbeerSubmitted on 2011/01/31 at 7:32 pm Wow. Just wow. Do the world a favor and throw out your computer monitor and defrost your hard drives in the microwave. Step outside and get some sun. I mean playing the sims is one thing, it is surely a pathetic injustice to the human race to even think writing about computer synthesized completely imaginary stacks of data and for you to read and critique it is just saddening. But I can take solace in knowing your shotty copy paste literature will go no further than this obscure website and will be lost inside the internet forever. Nice punctuation btw.  |
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Post by laura on Feb 1, 2011 20:09:00 GMT -5
Awww, that's sad  All the Sim blogs on the internet and why are they going to get so upset about one in particular? That's ridiculous. Unfortunately, I've gotten my fair share of these too. I do mark mine as spam as well, but first, I take a screenshot, and post them up for everyone to mock and point and laugh at: lakesideheights.blogspot.com/search/label/snarkIt makes me feel a little better about the whole deal, lol!  Though there was one comment that I just deleted - it was the most vile and disgusting thing I've ever read. Putrid, filthy language, ugh! It shocked me! And dude, I have a potty mouth myself!  I didn't want to subject my readers to that garbage even for laughs. Don't worry about it though. It's the sad cost of putting ourselves out there in public - ugly people hide behind the anonymous internet and throw their garbage because they're sad and pathetic themselves. Really, what happy and well-adjusted person would ever do such a thing? They truly must be miserable. |
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Post by sb on Feb 1, 2011 20:25:41 GMT -5
You know, reading that strange thing, it sounds like the writer is psychotic. I have a couple of schizophrenic relatives who have been known to do bizarre things like that, getting it into their heads that some stranger is doing something to them and leaving nasty messages that sound halfway real. It's so weird, you shouldn't take it personally.
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Post by dinuriel on Feb 1, 2011 20:38:11 GMT -5
Huh.
I'm obscure even for Sim stories, so I've only ever had one "insulting" comment, and it wasn't even on my main blog--just on an extras page, like character profiles or something. I didn't even think anything of it because I knew it was my brother and his friend (and he later owned up to it); I just kind of rolled my eyes, deleted it, and carried on with what I was doing.
I can't understand why people find that amusing though? If nothing else, it's juvenile--or, like Beth said, maybe even psychotic.
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Post by raquelaroden on Feb 1, 2011 20:44:50 GMT -5
The person should learn to spell "shoddy" before they start criticizing anything. Hmph.
Don't take it personally and certainly don't let it make you feel bad--why is the person reading it at all if it's so pointless and so bad? Why are they hanging around Sim blogs if that's a pathetic use of time? It doesn't make any sense. Some people are just mean, and like Beth says, I think some people suffer from mental illnesses that manifest themselves in terrible ways online. I feel no real obligation to post any comment on my blog that I don't want to post, because it's my blog. My little space--I never claimed it was a free speech zone. If I don't want nasty, hypercritical things littering my comment board, I don't have to have them. If I see a piece of decent criticism, I'll do my best to take it seriously, but all of the stuff I'm moved to delete is so offensive and so bad that no one can be expected to put that up without making fun of it first (Laura). There's no need to be a masochist--we're hard enough on ourselves and deal with plenty of self-esteem issues surrounding our writing as is.
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Post by celebkiriedhel on Feb 1, 2011 21:57:06 GMT -5
I've had an email where a person wished I was dead. I didn't reply, and blocked their email address. Later on they tried again via N99 PM system, so I reported them and they were banned.
People who get that upset over a Sims site/story have major personality issues that have nothing to do with either you, your site, your story or anything else. You're just the designated punching bag.
So don't take it personally. But do take precautions so that they can't attack you again. I believe it is possible to ban particular commenters, depending on which system you are using (whether you allow anonymous posters, etc, etc and which blog site you are using)
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Post by pinkfiend1 on Feb 1, 2011 22:03:54 GMT -5
You get a lot of horrible people out there. I mean if you don't like something don't read it.
I don't think I've ever deliberatly posted anything mean on a blog. But very occasionally if I notice a slight spelling mistake in a blog that is usually perfect it makes me smile even though I know full well that my spelling is completly worse than her on a regular basis, it reminds me that they are actually human. But then I do feel instantly guilty after I finished reading. Then again I don't think anybody has criticised me, well apart from those junk mass produced comments that I seem to collect.
I do try to comment on every chapter though. I accidently upset someone once because I didn't comment on a post when I normally did, but that was purely because I hadn't noticed that it had been updated. I felt so awful afterwards though, and just a little bit stupid. But if I'm starting ebhind I don't like commenting as I go along because I don't like commenting on posts that are ages old, but I don't like starting reading in the middle I have to go right from beginning,
Sometimes I can't think of anything interesting to say but I still feel like I have to comment, especially if it's somehting that you know they've put a lot of effort into. At one point I did stop commenting on Rad's apoc because I didn't have anything to say until the end, although for some reason not commenting on that didn't make me feel guilty because I was reading Rad's other things and commenting there.
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Post by mdpthatsme on Feb 1, 2011 22:22:42 GMT -5
I laugh at any negative comments. I'm like: "aww, they took time out of their precious stuck up lives to comment on my blog. How nice." But, then again, I've only had one person be negative and it wasn't on my blog...it was on 13pumpkin's Sunday Sims, but it was about my character's name. People sometimes, you can't even name your characters what you want, seriously.  It's a complete shrug moment and move on. But I find it facinating sometimes, considering on most blogs the writer has to approve of the comment so it usually won't show up until the writer approves it...so what is the negative commenter trying to do? No one else, but the writer is going to see the comment and they're most likely going to delete it. [looks side-to-side] It's not like other negative commenters are going to get to join in and be like "oh yeah I agree." or add some other snappy remarks. The Delete button is a very powerful weapon.  |
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Post by hrootbeer on Feb 1, 2011 22:39:45 GMT -5
You know, the funny part about this comment was that it didn't go through the approve process. I have that on all of my blogs. But this time I just got the message that someone had commented. Of course I still deleted it, but I thought it was odd. The email was clearly a fake. I'm not sure how you go about reporting someone on Wordpress. Maybe I'll look it up. I hate people who are openly "haters" as this person was (if not mentally unstable).
I like commenting on people's blogs when I have something to praise or make a comment about. Sometimes I don't have anything to say or so many people have already said it that I don't feel the need to duplicate. I never mean offense when I don't comment. I usually don't feel guilty about it either because I know my intentions are good. I'm a loyal reader.
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Post by rad on Feb 2, 2011 14:54:22 GMT -5
That was one weird comment - and seems general, as if it could have been left on any sims blog, not specific to yours. I would delete it and move on - you know how much the Kendricks and the Fields are absolutely adored by people. I still wonder what kind of trolling Moondaisy experienced |
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Post by mdpthatsme on Feb 2, 2011 15:30:54 GMT -5
Me too, Rad. I miss her. |
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Post by thelunarfox on Feb 2, 2011 16:06:35 GMT -5
You know, reading that strange thing, it sounds like the writer is psychotic. I have a couple of schizophrenic relatives who have been known to do bizarre things like that, getting it into their heads that some stranger is doing something to them and leaving nasty messages that sound halfway real. It's so weird, you shouldn't take it personally. With some of these nasty comments, I do get exactly this feeling. Like they're someone who isn't quite balanced and feels a need to strike out at people. And it can be for any number of reasons, but it says more about that person than it does about the blog they're commenting on. Ah Moondaisy. I still about her from time to time. She was always so nice. Just an honestly sweet and kind person. It seems meanies go after those people the most, probably because they aren't expecting them to fight back. |
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Post by Stacy on Feb 2, 2011 16:31:48 GMT -5
hrootbeer - That sounds like a very small-minded insecure person.
I've done a fair bit of research on bullying and criticism, and everything that I read pretty much says that it has everything to do with the bully and nothing to do with you. They don't even see you as a real person. They're more closed up in their own heads than Seth, and just projecting their issues out on to the world.
One thing that might help - turning it around on them. That is one good positive thing I learned from my mother - that when people talk about other people, they're really talking about themselves.
So I imagine this person feels meaningless and inferior inside, but they don't want to admit it. So they project it on to other people and try to place their internal sickness on to you as a way to get rid of it.
Don't let them. You're not their trash can.
Now if only I can take my own advice, lol.
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Post by somuchsong on Feb 2, 2011 18:03:52 GMT -5
You know, reading that strange thing, it sounds like the writer is psychotic. I have a couple of schizophrenic relatives who have been known to do bizarre things like that, getting it into their heads that some stranger is doing something to them and leaving nasty messages that sound halfway real. It's so weird, you shouldn't take it personally. With some of these nasty comments, I do get exactly this feeling. Like they're someone who isn't quite balanced and feels a need to strike out at people. And it can be for any number of reasons, but it says more about that person than it does about the blog they're commenting on. I agree. It seems like a normal person would find something they didn't care for and just move on, rather than leave nasty messages. I really don't understand the mentality, so I'm forced to conclude that the people who do this are probably not all there in the head. |
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Post by Stacy on Feb 2, 2011 21:01:50 GMT -5
IDEA!
How about - whenever someone leaves a hateful comment - anywhere in the community, any forum, any blog, any site - we respond with love?
It can be as simple as a picture of a candle, a bird, a heart. No words unless you feel like it. Just imagine - a troll met not with rage, not with drama, not with hurt, but with love. A shower of love.
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Post by Velvet on Feb 3, 2011 12:04:57 GMT -5
Brilliant! I've seen that work to great effect.
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Post by somuchsong on Feb 4, 2011 14:55:20 GMT -5
The only time I've ever had a nasty comment was actually in relation to one of my downloads (I had forgotten to credit and this anonymous commenter went way overboard in objecting and insulted my creation in the process) and this person actually did come back and read my reply. I know, because I was curious and labelled her IP. She didn't reply, of course. She slunk away like the coward she was. She hasn't come back since.
So I'm sort of wondering how common it is for them to come back at all, let alone read a response. The nasty comments that Laura has made fun of on her blog (and Shana from Pine Hollow has done something similar, with similar types of comments) just seem to be made by the kind of people who've come across the blog on Google, didn't like what they saw and decided to do a hit and run. I think it's likely that most of them aren't even in the Sims community. I have come across my own pictures in Google image search while using search terms I never would have thought would relate to my blog, so it's very easy to come across our stories, even outside of the community.
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